In performing oral sex when you hook up, knowing what you shouldn’t do can be as equally helpful as the things that you should do. With the help of my friends, here are tips in helping you know what to avoid doing when going down.
“A blow job is a hand job with lips and love,” says to my friend Ty, a bartender and bass player with a lot of experience when it comes to this subject. If getting head is magic, this man is Dumbledore. So if your hand skills are good enough, you hardly have to use your mouth. You can essentially just breathe on it, and he will surely come. So this makes learning how he likes to be jerked off very important. Every man is different, so you’ll have to make some adjustments to his length, girth, excess of skin or lack thereof, desired pressure, stroke, etc. Bonus tip: Get him to show you how he wants it done.
Grip Is Too Soft
And speaking of making adjustments, keep in mind that you’re performing a hand job, not idly churning butter. It’s called jerking off for a reason, so there should be a little force involved. As long as your grip is fairly close to the mark when you hook up and give him oral, you don’t have to worry about hurting him, especially when there’s lots of saliva involved.
There is no such thing as having a “right amount” of teeth. The same rule applies when he’s going down on you: his teeth should stay away from a mouth + saliva + tongue + clit pressure equation. It’s simply bad math.
Too Wet or Too Dry
The saying “different strokes for different folks” applies to every man’s penis. This is the reason why one guy says it can’t be wet enough saliva makes it sexier, looser, and much more fun. While another says the best blow jobs are the ones where he can hardly tell she’s been there: neat and tidy with no clean up. He likes his BJs quick and stealthy as if done by a clandestine special ops team, and the other wants it messy like rebel forces storming a city capital. There really is no right way to do it.
Not Taking Your Time
Do you remember the time when people used the word “chillax?” Me neither. It was probably a term used by the Ninja Turtles or maybe some sitcom kids whose writers imagined it’s a language people use when they talk. But when you’re giving a blow job, just chillax. It will benefit both parties. It will help eliminate stress and make you realize that this is no big deal, there is no element of urgency here, and will help keep your neck and jaw muscles from getting sore.
Author: erin mitchell