To all you not-so-shy readers who made it past the title, welcome to Club Dirtball: The place with no cover charge and the drinks are free, and there is no shame in leaving early. The exit’s right after the kinky sex dating tutorial. A lot of the women I know like to be dominated in bed, and that doesn’t mean just handcuffs and doing it doggy style; they just prefer their man to be in charge. This is totally fine, but I also know a great deal of women who prefer to be directing traffic, there are guys who love it when they do. So if you fall into this category, or the former, and you just believe that variety is the spice of life, here are a few ways to help you take control in bed when sex dating.
Undress Him Slowly
That sound when a button on the fly of a pair of jeans pops open is probably the sexiest noise you will ever hear on the planet. When sexually aroused, it’s as enticing as the sound opening a soda can makes when you’re thirsty. Make sure you let him hear every single pop, and every tooth of his zipper unfasten. The slow undress will leave him at your mercy.
Undress Him Quickly
Rip his shirt off, or better yet, tell him to take it off while you work on his pants. Maybe leave them on, and have them in a heap around his ankles as you kneel and take him in your mouth. This tactic is an effective way to let him know you’re in charge.
The butt is not the only part that needs a good, firm, loving, attention from an open palm, so get him to be alert by giving a quick smack and maybe a squeeze on his butt. This will surely make him pay attention, and the shock will leave him open to a nice shove on the bed that says “it’s time to do it.”
Pull His Hair
Use this move as a lever, for balance, and to let him know he’s doing it right. Whatever way you want to use it, grabbing fistfuls of his mane is a good way to tell him you’ll be guiding him on the things that are about to happen.
Going at it with your man like a hungry wolverine is a good way to put him off his regular game, and let him know he’s dealing with a fierce little creature, and not some docile little lamb.
This is a lot like talking dirty, but with more firm commands. This lets him know the sexy train will be chugging along right on time, and you are the engineer.
Author: erin mitchell